When I first met with Amy and Joe I instantly liked them. They have that fun spunky kind of love for each other and it’s quite evident that they belong together. They chose the beautiful Dering Harbor Inn on Shelter Island to have their wedding. It was a day filled with love, with their families and closest friends by their sides. One of my favorite moments of the day was when all the children in the wedding party gave them a special gift from them all. An a amzing blanket with all their original artwork on it. It was the sweetest! The celebration was full of great food, friendships and dancing the night away!
Joe tells their love story perfectly: “I met Amy during my visit to Stony Brook for an on-campus interview. I traveled from Illinois where I was in graduate school to Long Island for a job interview at Stony Brook. It was the first time I had been on Long Island. I flew in for 24 hours got a whirlwind tour of the campus and was introduced to Amy. My guide at the time told me that Amy was the person to know because “she gets shit done around here.” When I met her, I thought she was cute, and I think I made a mental note that she was very tall. I also quietly asked myself who the hell wears jean capris and flip-flops to the office…
I left NY very unsure if I was going to get the job or if I was going to take it. I was thrilled about the idea of moving to NY I just wasn’t excited about the idea of Long Island (this remains true to this day.) Either way, I settled back into my life as a graduate student and prepared to defend my thesis and take my comprehensive exams. Then, I got a call that I got the job, and I accepted and planned to move to the east coast.
When I arrived on campus, I was reintroduced to Amy who completed personnel paperwork for me. I remembered her being very nice. However, she had plenty of comments to make about why someone would ever pack their stuff up and relocate across the country. It was very clear when talking to Amy that she always got what she wanted and was not ashamed to let the world know this!
What I liked most about moving to NY was that Stony Brook was in the midst of a significant expansion and there were a bunch of new staff members who were hired around my age, and similarly situated in life. This meant that I always had a group of people to socialize with after work. Amy was among the group of people I hung out with after work. I had a tremendous amount of fun during my first few years at Stony Brook. It was a new environment, and I was meeting new people and enjoying new experiences. This was when I started to get to know Amy…
Looking back I laugh at my first observations of her; I thought for sure that Amy came from a huge family and had many brothers and sisters. Whenever she told a story about her family, it began with her talking about her Niece or how Aunt Amy had to buy someone a gift. Little did I know that she was an only child. She also somehow seemed to go to a wedding every weekend. I remember thinking who the hell knows this many people!
Alright, I think I’ve laid down enough foundation…let’s get to the good stuff! So we fast forward. During this period, I dated several girls, and I think Amy dated several guys as well. I seem to remember meeting one of them (he wasn’t very impressive.)
So at some point, I thought it would be a good idea for Amy and me to hang out. I remember working up the nerve to ask her to do something and she shot me down. I found it interesting because we always spent time in a large group setting. So I knew that she had a thing for me. Why else would she not want to go on a date? I also remember how awkward she acted when I did ask her to go out. It was as if she wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. So every opportunity I had to embarrass her by asking her to go on a date I did it just to be a jerk.
During this time Amy’s mom was very ill. I can’t remember how it happened but at some point, Amy decided that it was ok to hang out with me. So she would come over and watch the Yankees play, and we would sit on separate couches and look at the game then she would leave. As cute as I think Amy is her awkwardness during these baseball dates was simply unbearable! However, she kept coming back, and I kept opening the front door for her.
Amy’s mom took a turn during this time and was placed into a Rehab facility very close to my apartment. Amy would visit her every night after work and then would come over to my apartment, and we would have dinner together, and we would watch baseball and hang out. Things became a little less awkward we began sitting on the same couch together at this point. I could tell it was a difficult time for her. Her mother was very ill. I’m not the emotional type, and I didn’t know how to support her during this period, so I just tried to be a consistent presence for when she wanted to drink beer and watch baseball. If she wanted to sit on another couch and look at the game, she knew that I would always be on the other couch. Now we fast forward, and I can’t keep her away from me!”
Oh and we need to add in Amy’s story too:
“My recollection of our story is pretty similar although I’m not sure I would say I dated several people… I’d say more like two, lol!
Joe and I built a friendship over the 4 years we worked together (before we started dating). He often pushed me out of my comfort zone and while that REALLY frustrated me, it forced me to learn new things about myself. He was like no one else in my life (and as he mentioned, I knew a lot of people)!
He’s right about one thing…. After several requests for a first date, he eventually wore me down and quickly found a special place in my heart while being there for me during a very difficult time in my life. He always could (still can) make me smile/laugh even when he was acting like a “jerk”.
We continued to work together while dating for another couple of years before Joe decided to go back to school to become a lawyer. When Joe was accepted to the University of Illinois Law School there wasn’t a doubt in my mind that I’d miss him like crazy… however, I was also sure that our relationship was strong enough to survive the distance. It’s been 2+ years that we’ve been apart and as hard as it’s been I know it’s made us stronger. If we can get through this we can get through anything!
He has less then a year to go now… and I’m counting the days to graduation so that we can finally live in the same time zone again.”
A special thank you to my talented friend Sebastian for being there to second shoot with me:
The talented vendors involved:
Venue: Dering Harbor Inn
Caterer: Christopher Michael Catering
Florist: Flowers by Liz
Cake: Leanne’s Specialty Cakes
Musicians/Band: Atomic Funk Project